Partners In Dialogue

April 2006

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INDEX
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- Recovery

- Thank you!

- Turn your face to the sun

- Integrative Couple Therapy, rescheduled

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RECOVERY
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I am recovering from my heart attack and heart surgery.

The medical advise is that it takes 3 months for the bone to heal. My sternum was cut open. I can still feel the ache of the bone on the mend.

Barry Brailsford, friend and mentor, told me, it takes at least a year for the emotional wound to heal. It is important that I take my time.

Yet, in face of my death life becomes even more precious and a certain urgency appears.

What is really important?

Is it to live a conscious partnership with Mirjam?

Is it to do my relationship work as a counsellor and a teacher?

Is it to set up a living-learning environment with others?

Is it to live ecologically?

What is my gift to the world?

What is my task to do?

What makes my life meaningful?

What is a life well lived?

I can only find the answers in the moment of life unfolding. Reaching out and being connected to my heart. What is there to lose?

The pain in my chest is a welcome reminder not to lose heart again, to reclaim my heart and its needs and to stay connected to the mystery of life.

Rudolf

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THANK YOU
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Thank You!
I feel very grateful for all the love and care that I have received from so many of you. Your emails, cards and visits have meant so much to me and definitely have contributed to my recovery from surgery. I felt held and supported throughout this trying times.
Many thanks for your generosity in words, thoughts and prayers.
Arohanui
Rudolf Jarosewitsch

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TURN YOUR FACE TO THE SUN
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“Turn your face to the sun

And the shadows fall

behind you”

Maori Proverb

When I asked myself, bewildered, confused, sad and frightened, “How will I face and survive the next step in an unknown, unpredictable, unfamiliar journey that may lead to the death of my partner, the answer became: Love.

Love - in wanting to be near him every minute of the day, wanting to treat him with extra special care, kindness, thoughtfulness and affection.

Love - in sharing day by day with my closest friends the fullness of my pain.

Love - in accepting all the support they offered.

Love – in freely sharing my appreciation even of the smallest acts of kindness.

Love – in being thoughtful in my actions towards strangers in the knowledge that they may also be in pain.

Love – in thinking loving thoughts of all the nurses and doctors, although they may differ greatly in their approach to illness.

Love – in letting myself be carried and held by all the well-wishes, positive thoughts, meditations and prayers that came our way.

Love – in letting myself be nourished by the song of the cicadas and the strength of the trees in Hagley Park.

Mirjam Busch

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INTEGRATIVE COUPLE THERAPY
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Integrative Couple Therapy
The Journey of the Heart
with Mirjam Busch & Rudolf Jarosewitsch
Introductory Professional Training Day
Saturday 13 May 2006
9:30 am - 4:30 pm, Christchurch
$100
When we help couples to relate more deeply and fully to where they already are, the soul of their relationship can breathe and make room for mutual understanding, appreciation and imagination.
In this training, we provide support, techniques and teachings that help professionals work effectively with relationship dynamics.
Our philosophy is based on the insight that difficulties and struggles in relationships can provide an opportunity for personal development and deepened connection between partners.
This training day is suitable for counsellors, therapists and social workers.
Mirjam Busch and Rudolf Jarosewitsch are both experienced therapists (MNZAC), who for the last eight years have specialised in working together with couples and developed their own dynamic and creative approach, combining a male and female perspective.
To enrol, contact:
Mirjam Busch & Rudolf Jarosewitsch, ph: 3885292

rumijabu@inet.net.nz

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